When you are truly happy, you are your authentic self. There is no need to be anything but.
When you are truly yourself, things make sense. Dots connect. You wonder why the hell you didn’t find a way here sooner.
Now, not later.
…that’s the second step, and it’s a lot easier than the first.
If we’re serious—like, actually serious—about striving for a life of fulfillment and happiness, then we must live it, every day, starting right now. Too many of us are under the false impression that happiness is something that we will arrive at ‘one day’. Of course, ‘one day’ is comforting. If we can push things off to an unknown future time, it provides welcome relief from the pressure of having to make any immediate decisions. In fact, ‘one day’ is often very necessary; we’re not always in the best frame of mind to make the big decisions.
But ‘one day’ has an obvious danger that is often very hard to see: ‘one day’ never actually arrives.
Perhaps we’re waiting; waiting for the right job, the right car, the right house, the right money, the right relationship, the right time. If we’re not careful, we’ll spend our entire lives waiting.
Now is the time. Not later. Right now…this very moment.
…because all we have is now.
The super-simple secret.
Find moments of elation; the tiny, seemingly-insignificant moments that give you small but highly-potent bursts of happiness.
…no, simpler still…
There you go.
Stepping into a hot shower on a cold night…the smell of a fireplace in winter…looking up and seeing the clouds painted on the sky…the first hint of warmth in the air in springtime…sliding into a freshly made bed after a long day.
Think about it. What makes you come alive, even for a fraction of a moment? We all have more of these moments than we know. Start super-small (remember, it’s the super-small that when combined, makes up the large). If you’re stuck, hold your breath for 10 seconds, then take a breath. No…don’t just take a breath, drink it in.
Keep on the look-out for more.
“This darkness is nothing but a lack of light” – Holy Holy (Sentimental & Monday)
But here’s the thing:
You’ve got to curate the process to actually work for you. You’ve got to use these moments. You’ve got to immerse yourself within them and savor every last drop.
Then, most importantly, remind yourself how unfathomably lucky you are to have them in the first place. Take a moment and think about the astronomic, practically infinite number of events that had to occur in order for you find yourself alive, here in these tiny moments of wonder.
Find more of these moments—the ones that are just for you—build them up, combine them, experiment and play with them. Use them to fill you up, fuel you & inspire you with beauty. Then, find more. Let it snowball.
Everything else will follow. If you feel happy and fulfilled, then you’re facing True North. You are exactly where you need to be. Nothing but good can come your way.
“Whether I’m dominating the world, or the world is dominating me, I’m just glad to experience it.” – Zack Anner
The First Step.
The first step is acknowledgment. Sometimes this is the hardest part. If we can honestly look at ourselves and acknowledge that we have not yet found the measure of happiness and fulfillment that we desire from this one and only life, then we’ve take the first step.
We then begin the exciting and terrifying process of change.
Sentimental & Monday by Holy Holy.
I have missed writing.
However, in recent times, life has made me aware of a new happiness of crucial importance, and has kindly but sternly requested that I—for the time being—set aside the areas of life that are not directly related to my base-level survival, and dedicate myself fully to immersing myself in the experience of this path. I have done just that.
When True North is calling, it’s a waste of time not to listen.
My writing will be sporadic, but I will undoubtedly keep writing and will find my way back here as often as possible. In fact, one day, with the clarity of hindsight I will likely write much about this time, which has proven to be the most exciting, challenging and formative of my life. But now, I need to be present and live it. As of yet, it’s too early to try to fully understand it; that can come later.
To the small number of wonderful people who find their way to the end of these posts, I am more grateful than you know. I hope life is wonderful for you! I’ll see you again soon.